Tag Archive for relationships

God Is Shaping You

Live a life of love, just as Christ loved us. (Ephesians 5:2, NIV)

God uses relationships to make us more Christ-like.

Usually when problems arise in a relationship, we blame the other person. But more often, the reactions of the other person are a mirror in which we can see ourselves and our faults more clearly.

God uses these tough times to teach us and reshape us. He is giving us hands-on training in patience, forbearance, gentleness, and self-sacrifice. He is teaching us to set ourselves aside to make someone else happy, to reach out and understand the other person, even when they seem the most unfair.

Do you want the mind of Christ? He forms it in us through people. When painful, demanding situations arise, live love. God is doing a good work in you.

Listen…and sing if you want:
Hymn: Father, You See Our Need
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Praying for Fellow Workers

This is the 22nd in a series of Friday posts on congregational song.

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. (Ephesians 5:21, NIV)

I urge… that requests, prayers, intercessions and thanksgiving be made for everyone–for … all those in authority. (1 Timothy 2:1-2, NIV)

We all have to work with other people, whether on our jobs, at home, or in the church. Some are our co-workers. Some are our supervisors. In both cases, our work is interconnected with theirs. If the other person doesn’t do a good job, our work is damaged.

This is particularly true in music. Singers, instrumentalists, writers, directors–none of us is an island. The quality and effectiveness of our work is dependent on other people. That can be very stressful!

In dealing with such situations in my own life, the Lord has brought me back to what the Bible says about submitting to one another and praying for one another. I’m discovering that is great, practical advice.

Instead of fretting about whether another person will do a good job or whether a supervisor will make the right decision, I’m learning to pray for them. I pray that God will guide them and work through them to accomplish His will.

Then, having prayed for them and trusted the Lord to work through them, I can more easily rely on them and be submissive to them. And when I still feel I must disagree, I can do so in a non-defensive, non-territorial manner, remembering it is God’s work, not mine, and He will accomplish it.

Sometimes we feel that if everyone would just leave us alone, if we weren’t so dependent on others, everything would be terrific. The Bible declares that that simply isn’t so. Each of us has a particular role to play. By ourselves, we are so limited. We were designed to work most efficiently and productively in relationship to others. We are each like one part of the body that must work with other parts if the whole body is to function successfully. God created us to be dependent not only on himself but on each other.

Prayer is the best way to make such relationships work. Through prayer, we lift up those on whom we are dependent. Through prayer, we maintain the right attitude toward them. Prayer for fellow workers fosters the unity and interdependence essential for all of us to be and do our best together.

And through prayer, we keep our faith focused on God’s will and on His ability to accomplish that will through us, not just through me.

First Things First

By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.
(John 13:35, NIV)

Christians are not known by their politics,
by their musical styles,
by their miracles, or
by their cultural preferences.
Christians are known by their love.

God doesn’t require hard or extraordinary things from us.
He doesn’t measure us by our intelligence,
our talents, or
our grand accomplishments.

He asks us to love those around us,
not just in word but in action.
Someday, that’s how we’ll all be judged (Matthew 25:31-46).

Next to loving God, life’s highest calling,
greatest challenge, and
deepest joy
is loving others as we love ourselves (Matthew 22:36-40).
As you set your priorities and goals,
keep first things first.

Daily Love

Owe no one anything, except to love one another.
(Romans 13:8, NRSV)

Did you know you are in debt to everyone around you?
You owe each person this:
to love them as you love yourself.

We have so many grand goals.
We get wrapped up in so many worthy
desires,
ambitions, and
ministries.

But Jesus said that the most important thing in all the world,
next to loving God completely,
is to love those around us as much as we love ourselves.

God is love.
Turn to Him.
Talk to Him.
As you walk with Him,
He will lead you into a life of love.

Jesus, help me love others
as I love myself.

Listen…and sing if you want:
Hymn: I Look to You, and You Are Love
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As I Want to Be Treated

In everything, do to others what you would have them do to you.
(Matthew 7:12, NIV)

Relationships can be so complex and puzzling.
How do we know how to handle
the many situations and personalities that come our way?

Jesus has given us one simple rule.
It’s easy to remember and easy to understand:
Treat other people the way you want to be treated.
This single command sums up all God has to teach us about
living in harmony with each other.

Try it!
And ask Him for help.
He’s glad to give it.

Lord, help me
treat each person
as I want to be treated. 

Listen…and sing if you want:
Hymn: Live in Love
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Fill Me with Love

Love the Lord your God
with all your heart and
with all your soul and
with all your mind and
with all your strength.…
Love your neighbor as yourself.
There is no commandment greater than these.
(Mark 12:30-31, NIV)

God, You are love.
And more than anything else,
You want to fill my life with love.
You want me to love You and
love those around me—
not just in word but in action,
with all I have and all I am.

You want to root out the selfishness that
twists, distorts, and destroys my life.
You want to fill me with Your love and
the peace it brings—
peace with others and
peace with You.

Jesus, today fill every thought
and every action with love.

Listen…and sing if you want:
Hymn: Be Love in Me
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Love One Another

John 13:34-35

What would you most want to say to your loved ones
as you prepared to leave them in this world?
Compare your list to what Jesus says to His disciples in John chapters 13 through 16.

One of the things I would say is this:
My loved ones, I ask you, I beg you,
love each other—
deeply, actively, totally, more and more every day!
Never forget it!
Never grow lax in it!
Never let anything take its place!
Your love can express a portion of the love I have for each of you,
the love I would show you if I were there.
In my absence, friends, I ask you with all my heart:
love each other!

That is one of the first things Jesus tells His disciples
to prepare them for His departure.
Love one another,
even as I have loved you. (John 13:34, NASB)
Later He comes back and says it all again.

We are Christ’s presence in this world.
He longs for us to deeply, daily, totally, actively
express His love for those that are so dear to Him.
Do you love Jesus Christ?
Do you care what matters to Him?
Then love one another.

Always Working for Good

We know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him.
(Romans 8:28, NIV)

I’ve come through a long ordeal.
The result: I feel I’ve been wronged.
Anger wants to boil up inside me.

But, Lord, I look to You.
I accept this decision as from Your hand,
as Your perfect and merciful will for me.
I thank You for the wisdom and love that
even now is using this pain for my good.

And that person, Lord—
I accept them as Your servant.
If they were mistaken or insensitive,
I forgive them.

Most of all, help me think and act as Your servant,
trusting You,
rejoicing in You.
Anger and self-protection are burdens too heavy to bear.
I cannot serve You and continue to carry them.
I give them to You.

Thank You, Lord! You are always good!

Invest in Others

You were called to freedom, brethren;
only do not turn your freedom into
an opportunity for the flesh,
but through love serve one another.
(Galatians 5:13, NASB)

Imagine yourself 30 or 40 years in the future,
looking back on your life.
Your work here is largely past,
and if the Lord tarries,
the world will move on.
You will soon fade from the scene.

When that day comes,
you’ll see that your part in the whole is what’s important,
not your few solo lines.
Much of what you have accomplished will be
temporary or partial.
The success of the work for which you’ve given your life
will depend on the success of others.

Think of yourself as only one part of the whole.
Pray for others and their efforts.
Encourage them.
Help them enthusiastically,
as if the success of your work depends on theirs.
For in reality, it does.
Invest yourself in the lives of others.

Accept One Another

Accept one another…just as Christ accepted you.
(Romans 15:7, NIV)

I was at a Christian music conference.
With the variety of performers, approaches, and styles that were there,
I found myself growing critical.

God checked me.
He pointed out that He himself had shown His grace and mercy
to each of them,
just as to me.
He reminded me that each of them needed His continuing
grace, mercy, and guidance
just as much as I did.

Lord, those who have trusted You
come in every personality and level of maturity.
Help me to see each of them as
one who has received Your grace and
who needs Your grace.
I turn away from the sin of judging my dear brothers and sisters.
Help me to love and accept them
just as You, Jesus, have loved and accepted them.

Listen…and sing if you want:
Hymn: Love One Another
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